Bar / Bat Mitzvah Thank You Notes

Bar / Bat Mitzvah Thank You Notes - Tips

Bar/Bas Mitzvahs are often large parties, and as such present some additional challenges. To facilitate gift tracking and storage, it is recommended that you leave a box on a table or some other place where you can store the presents. Take away the presents early in the evening and place them in a locked room to help avoid lost gifts. At the end of your party, check all around and make sure that no gift was left behind. You might want to choose one family member that will be responsible for gathering the gifts and seeing that they are kept safely.

When you open the gifts, write down a list of what you got from whom. You will need the list to write the thank you notes.

Thankster is particularly useful for Bar/Bas Mitzvahs, as children of that age are already more comfortable typing on their computers and will generally be even more loath than adults to adhere to the discipline required to get so many thank you notes written. Writing thank you notes can be a tedious way to come back to earth for the young celebrant; after all, how many different ways can a child write, "Thank you for the check. I enjoyed having you at my bar mitzvah"? Naturally, the Bar/Bas Mitzvah child should write the thank you notes, but you should probably spot check them to be sure the notes they write (well, type) are both warm and personal.

The actual wording of the thank you is, perhaps, the hardest part. Following are some general suggestions, along with some specific suggestions for text.

Bar / Bat Mitzvah Thank You Notes - Wording Samples

Guests with No GiftIndividuals Your Child Barely KnowsIndividuals Your Child Knows, but Does Not Get to See OftenFriends of Your Child Who Will Be Celebrating Their Bar/Bat MitzvahParents' Business AssociatesMoney GiftsOther

Guests with No Gift

" Thank you for helping me to celebrate my Bar Mitzvah [or Bat Mitzvah party]. It was great spending time with you and I appreciate everything you've done."

Individuals Your Child Barely Knows

" I'm so glad we had the chance to meet at my Bat Mitzvah. I hope you had as much fun as I did!"

Individuals Your Child Knows, but Does Not Get to See Often

" It was so great to see you at my Bar Mitzvah. I wish we could have spent more time together. Perhaps we'll be able to get together soon."

Friends of Your Child Who Will Be Celebrating Their Bar/Bat Mitzvah

" The earrings you gave me are so special! Thank you for taking the time to choose such a beautiful gift. I'm sure we'll have a wonderful time at your Bat Mitzvah. Don't be nervous, you'll be great!"

Parents' Business Associates

" It was so nice to meet you at my Bat Mitzvah. Thank you for the generous gift, which I have put in an investment fund."


" Meeting all the people from my mom's office was fun. Now I can put faces to the names she always mentions. Thank you again for being part of my celebration."


" Thank you for the thoughtful gift. It was a pleasure to meet you and the rest of my dad's co-workers. I hope you all had as good a time as I did!"


" My Bar Mitzvah was so much fun. I'm glad you were able to be a part of it. Thank you for the generous gift, and for being part of this special day."

Money Gifts

" Thank you for the generous B. Mitzvah gift. I plan to save it for my college education."


" With your gift I will be able to purchase a [insert item] I have been saving for."


" Seeing you at my celebration was such a treat, and the [insert gift] you gave me was awesome."